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Jeg kom lige ind i en malaysisk diskussion om indførsel af en ny slags
"ægteskab" et "Misyar" ægteskab, som man bruger det i Mellemøsten, hvor det
breder sig som en steppebrand. Det er ret genialt, fordi det tillader en
mand at have en elskerinde, hvor det eneste han skal yde er sex mindst en
gang om ugen, iflg stormuftien i Egypten. Samtidig sikrer det, at han stadig
er på vej mod paradis og det evige liv ved de rislende floder i himlen, og
Allah sidder og nikker med et velbehageligt smil når manden er på vej til at
"yde" sit ugentlige bidrag.

Man MÅ sgu beundre de fromme mænd, det er genialt hvad de kan få religionen
til at give dem af rettigheder over kvinder. Almindeligvis har
sunni-muslimer set ned på shia-skikken med "muta"-ægteskaber, som kan vare
fra en time og opad, men nu har de altså fundet deres egen metode til det
samme. (Den har været der hele tiden, men er blevet helt moderne igen)

De fromme topfolk i Malaysia er alle for indførsel af "misyar", mens en del
gifte kvinder - mærkelig nok - er imod. Oftest bliver misyar-forholdet holdt
hemmeligt for den gifte kvinde.

Grunden til, at disse udviklinger kan være interessante, også for os, er at
de viser at islamiseringen af de muslimske lande hele tiden vokser, man går
mere og mere til biddet og til kilderne. Og da vi en dag om nogle få årtier
også er blevet et muslimsk flertalsland, så er det godt at holde sig
orienteret, - synes jeg jo.



Fra Qatar:

‘Misiyar' is a legal marriage according to Islamic law where there is no
commitment. Being somewhat controversial, it naturally has its share of
supporters and detractors.

Those against it say ‘Misiyar' creates moral problems and raises social
issues. Those in favour say it is after all legal as per Islamic laws so
there is nothing wrong with it. In the last five years, the phenomenon has
become widespread throughout the GCC states, like Qatar. People are wary of
getting married due to the high expenses and social commitments involved.

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Saudi Arabien

JEDDAH, 10 June 2006 — Ah, the lovely “misyar” marriage arrangement bubbles
up again in the local media. This particular form of marriage allows men to
take a second wife with no legal obligations, an arrangement that is
notorious among first wives (the misyar marriage is often concealed from
them) it allows husbands to have an ostensibly guilt-free second source of
sexual pleasure and female companionship without the risk of expensive
divorces from the second wife. This time, the daily Al-Madinah reported that
a handicapped Saudi woman turned down a misyar proposal from a married Saudi
man. She said that she had too much dignity to become a cheap object of
sexual pleasure for a married man. Samar Haneefa, director of the Center of
the Disabled Children’s Association in Jeddah, said the incident took place
at her center. “The majority of girls at our center have refused to accept
misyar marriage,” she told the paper.


Genialt, selv handicappede kvinder kan få en "ægtemand", som kan tilbyde dem
sex på en regelmæssig basis. Ikke så ringe endda.


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Malaysia:

Marriage of convenience is allowed, says Grand Imam

01 June, 2006
Kuala Lumpur: The contoversial "misyar" marriage or marriage of convenience
for independent women is legitimate as it conforms with the tenets of Islam,
said the Grand Imam of Al-Azhar Prof Dr Muhammad Sayyed Tantawi.

He said that according to Islam, a marriage was solomnised once "ijab dan
kabul" (marriage vow), "mas kahwin" (dowry) and public proclamation were
endorsed and there was no coercion.

"If the two parties mutually agree to absolve their entitlement (under
normal marriage), a man and a woman can live harmoniously as husband and
wife under misyar marriage," he said after giving a talk at the Federal
Territory Mosque here today.

His remarks in Arabic were translated by the Prime Minister's Islamic
Advisor Tan Sri Dr Abdul Hamid Othman.

Prof Tantawi, who is on a tour of the region, said the suggestion that
misyar marriage was victimisation of women's right was wrong for it took
place with the agreement of the men and women.

"With misyar marriages, divorcees or widows can continue to take a righteous
path consummated by their husband," he said.

In misyar marriages widely practised in the Middle East, the misyar husbands
are married men, he said.

A misyar wife agrees not to ask for financial or material support as she is
financially independent, he said, adding that the husband must visit her at
least once a week to meet her sexual needs.

Prof Tantawi said the husband could not force his misyar wife to live
together with his first wife but to let her stay on her own.

"Misyar marriages are appropriate for women who like to be on their own,
living together with their children," he said.

Asked whether misyar marriages are suitable for Malaysia, he said: "Why not?
Islam encourages husbands and wives to live in harmony."

The controversy over misyar marriage was started by Universiti Malaya's
Islamic Studies Academy scholar Prof Datuk Dr Mahmud Zuhdi Abdul Majid who
said the marriage could solve the problem of unwed career Muslim women.

Several prominent women leaders criticised the practice, arguing that
irresponsible husbands could victimise and discriminate against the misyar
wife. - Bernama

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"Knud Larsen" <larsensknud@yahoo.dk> skrev i en meddelelse
news:44965be4$0$67255$157c6196@dreader2.cybercity.dk...
> Jeg kom lige ind i en malaysisk diskussion om indførsel af en ny slags
> "ægteskab" et "Misyar" ægteskab, som man bruger det i Mellemøsten, hvor
> det breder sig som en steppebrand. Det er ret genialt, fordi det tillader
> en mand at have en elskerinde, hvor det eneste han skal yde er sex mindst
> en gang om ugen, iflg stormuftien i Egypten.

> Grunden til, at disse udviklinger kan være interessante, også for os, er
> at de viser at islamiseringen af de muslimske lande hele tiden vokser, man
> går mere og mere til biddet og til kilderne. Og da vi en dag om nogle få
> årtier også er blevet et muslimsk flertalsland, så er det godt at holde
> sig orienteret, - synes jeg jo.
>

Netop dette eksempel virker snarere som en tilpasning til den dekadente
livsstil i Vesten, hvor mænd ikke straffes for at besøge prostituerede,
bortset fra Sverige.

Der er jo stadig ikke mulighed for affærer med gifte muhamedanerkoner, da
dette ifølge alle muhamedanske retslærde hjemfalder til steningsdød. Kun
takket være skrappe beviskrav undgår de eventuelt utro i lande med sjarialov
at blive stenet. De 100 piskeslag for hor mellem en mand og en ugift kvinde
kan måske afværges ved disse midlertidige ægteskaber, men i de fleste
muhamedanerlande kan straffen alligevel undgås ved at undlade at indrømme
udåden.

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"Per Hagemann" <perhag@tdcadsl.dk> wrote in message
news:4496c29c$0$47041$edfadb0f@dread15.news.tele.dk...
>
> "Knud Larsen" <larsensknud@yahoo.dk> skrev i en meddelelse
> news:44965be4$0$67255$157c6196@dreader2.cybercity.dk...
> > Jeg kom lige ind i en malaysisk diskussion om indførsel af en ny slags
>> "ægteskab" et "Misyar" ægteskab, som man bruger det i Mellemøsten, hvor
>> det breder sig som en steppebrand. Det er ret genialt, fordi det tillader
>> en mand at have en elskerinde, hvor det eneste han skal yde er sex mindst
>> en gang om ugen, iflg stormuftien i Egypten.
>
>> Grunden til, at disse udviklinger kan være interessante, også for os, er
>> at de viser at islamiseringen af de muslimske lande hele tiden vokser,
>> man går mere og mere til biddet og til kilderne. Og da vi en dag om nogle
>> få årtier også er blevet et muslimsk flertalsland, så er det godt at
>> holde sig orienteret, - synes jeg jo.
>>
>
> Netop dette eksempel virker snarere som en tilpasning til den dekadente
> livsstil i Vesten, hvor mænd ikke straffes for at besøge prostituerede,
> bortset fra Sverige.

Hvorfor skulle de også straffes for det?

Eksemplet er nu snarere en tilpasning til den dekadente livssstil i
Mellemøsten, som har haft denne type ægteskaber på programmet i flere
hundrede år.